“I’m not in love with him any more,” a wife said sadly, sitting in my office.
She had been. Once, over a decade ago. Before the brutal murder of her husband’s younger sister. Before the years of tracking down the killer, the long, long … [Read more...] about True Love
Steel is forged under intense heat and great force. In a similar fashion, a relationship can be strengthened by enduring a time of heightened emotional intensity and duress. Or adversity can be the death knell for a couple. Dave and … [Read more...] about Beyond Infidelity
Betrayal is a human story as old as time. But it is one thing to read about infidelity in the newspaper, or to watch a performance of Macbeth or Rashomon; it is quite another to find oneself suddenly center stage in one’s own … [Read more...] about Betrayed
This is how a client, a husband, recently described his marriage to me:
Functional but unhappy. Just like my parents. At least that’s how I saw their marriage, functional but unhappy. They looked so good from the outside, but living with … [Read more...] about Functional, but Unhappy
Ok, this is where we don’t want our relationships to go.
One of the startling results of John Gottman’s research is the ability to predict divorce, with a greater than 90% accuracy, from viewing a single 15-minute video clip of a couple … [Read more...] about Distance and Isolation Cascade