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Two Equally Valid Subjective Realities

Two Equally Valid Subjective Realities

In this video Connie Feutz, one of the original six clinicians at the John Gottman Institute talks about one trait of successful couples: the idea that honoring one another's points of view is more important than being right. https://vimeo.com/480963249/9a79c48226...

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Two Arms

Two Arms

When engaged in couples or marriage counseling, I envision a resilient, viable, loving relationship has having two strong, flexible arms: with one arm, we build Good Will while with the other, we skillfully navigate our differences or perpetual issues. With both...

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Relationship Ebbs and Flows

Relationship Ebbs and Flows

Those times when we are in the ‘flow’ with our partner is just so very precious! Which can make the inevitable ‘ebbs’ just plain yukky. While I don’t particularly like them either, it helps when I remember that so much of our world has a natural ebb and flow to it,...

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Nourishing Good Will

Nourishing Good Will

Good will is generated so effortlessly in the beginning of a romantic relationship, we don’t even know we’re doing it—it just ‘happens’! It’s what draws us together in the first place—all of that good stuff: the laughter, the smiles, the hanging out together, the...

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Discover your Love Language

Discover your Love Language

This is one of the simplest tools around, and yet, quite impressive—and effective—with the insights it can offer a couple Years ago, Gary Chapman identified five different love languages, and indeed they are ‘languages’ and indeed, there are five different ways people...

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Managing Emotional Triggers

Managing Emotional Triggers

Everyone gets triggered. It’s not an ‘if’, it’s a ‘when’. We might be triggered by reminders of unwanted memories, uncomfortable topics, another person’s words or actions, or even one’s own behaviors. How do you know if you’ve been triggered? By listening to your mind...

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Navigating Negative Emotions

Navigating Negative Emotions

You may have noticed, I have an earlier blog titled The Opportunity behind Difficult Emotions.  This is often the work I do in my office with someone—examining the longing, the story, the need, behind negative emotions or emotional rupture between two...

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Two Arms

Two Arms

https://vimeo.com/480964369/20c5078a07 In this video Connie Feutz, one of the original six Master Clinicians at the John Gottman Institute talks about two necessary parts of a successful relationship: good will, and the skills to navigate difficult...

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Touchstone

Touchstone

https://vimeo.com/480963493/76dd383900 In this video Connie Feutz, one of the original six Master Clinicians at the John Gottman Institute talks about the Touchstone Meeting—a communication strategy for busy couples striving for more balance and harmony in...

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