No matter what state your marriage is in, carving a path toward a more loving, resilient and harmonious relationship is possible.
And I know how to help you.
Hello, I’m Connie Feutz
Understanding what makes relationships thrive and flourish has been a focus my entire life. I felt this yearning from a very early age, and it has propelled me through all of life’s major decisions.
This yearning led to my studies with some of the top clinicians in the field and to my career as an Individual and Couples Counselor, and eventually to the Gottman Institute, where I worked directly with John and Julie Gottman. I was chosen by them to be one of the original six Master Clinicians of the Gottman Institute.
With over 35 years of clinical practice, I know this to be true:
There is an alchemy that happens when we give ourselves over to deeply loving another: the joy, the vulnerability, the suffering.
Either we expand (in love) or we contract (in suffering).
I know what it takes to guide love onto a positive trajectory.
“Connie Feutz is an extraordinarily gifted couples’ therapist. I would send my own family to her in a heartbeat. I have great admiration for her abilities.”
— John Gottman, Ph.D.
Creating and maintaining a vibrant, harmonious and resilient relationship isn’t as difficult as you might think.
It is, however, a practice.
The “must-have” ingredients of a harmonious relationship call for the consistent and intentional use of the following three skillsets:
Having the wherewithal and the skills to build and replenish Good Will—which nourishes connection—is the groundswell from which love and emotional resilience spring.
Mindful State of Mind
The ability to be kind, attentive and responsive—and to know when to calm down when necessary—allows for increased feelings of emotional safety and trust. All of this is necessary for closeness and vulnerability.
Conflict is inevitable: it’s what we do with it that makes all the difference. When partners know how to speak gently and listen deeply, they are able to communicate from a tender, open, and receptive place where each person feels heard, valued and validated.
Learn the must-have skills to turn your relationship into an intentional, love-rich practice with The Mindful Love Course
A Mindful Love Course starts October 1, 2022
The Mindful Love Course is an amalgam of everything I’ve learned over my 35 years of clinical practice. This five-week course is filled with concepts, skills, and exercises to help you learn how to deepen connection, manage conflict skillfully, and become more mindful of both your partner and of yourself.
I’m like no other couples’ counselor you’ve ever experienced.
If there’s a consistent thread that runs through my 35 years of clinical experience (12 of which were with the Gottman Institute), it’s my burning desire to be effective and to help you achieve the goals you have for yourself and for your relationship, no matter what they are.
To do this, I’ve blended the best evidence-based tools and research to create my own highly impactful approach to couples therapy. Instead of the traditional hourly sessions, I work with couples for day-long sessions called Marathon Couples Therapy, which allows for the time and space to truly dive deeply into your issues and concerns. I can help you access new strengths, learn new skills, and gain new insights so you can shift the trajectory of your relationship to one that’s more positive and more satisfying.
In-person and video-conferencing options available