Hold Me Tight, by Sue Johnson (2008)
Sue Johnson, the developer of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, is a brilliant clinician and researcher, and a force of nature. If you ever have an opportunity to see her present, jump at it. This is her first book for the general public about Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy and it is fill with gems. One of my favorites is how she described emotional responsiveness in its three components: ARE. Accessibility (Can I reach you?), Responsiveness (Can I rely on you to respond to me emotionally?) and Engagement (Do I know you will value me and stay close?)
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, by John Gottman (1999)
Of all of John’s books, this is the one I recommend the most frequently. It succinctly and eloquently maps out the seven conceptual levels of the Sound Relational House, in a format that is readily available. Many couples have found this book to be very useful.
